There are not many times these days where I can sit down and really reflect on what I am doing. Things are so fast paced that quite often the days roll into one. There is little time to write or take photos let alone having some time to think! It doesn’t feel that long ago I was sitting in London with two strangers drinking coffee after getting through an interview. Those two strangers are now two very good friends. So I thought as it’s my birthday (2nd December), I thought this was as good time as any to reflect on my strange life.
In 25 years, I’ve experienced many things, both bad and good. Although I may still be relatively young, this world has left it’s identifiable mark on me. This is what I have learnt.
1. There will be a day where you feel that everything and everyone you care about does not matter.
2. That day will end and the days that will follow will be better.
3. Intelligent people are also capable of doing the most stupid things. Sometimes there is evidence left behind!
4. There will come a day where sex is seen as nowhere near as important as companionship. That day may be sooner than you realise.
5. You will notice the small details that show that there is beauty in even this sometimes harsh world. Like how the golden sunlight plays on someone’s hair or those knowing looks shared between people that say more than what words ever could.
6. You will meet people who will always be there for you. They can turn up in the most unlikely of places and at strange hours. You just have to drop them a message.
7. Time is not a healer or some magic dimension that will make things happen for you. You have to make things work out yourself and keep at it.
8. There are more people than what you imagine who will stand by you if the situation calls for it. Show them the same in return if they are ever in need.
9. You may feel like the world is crazy and makes no sense; you have to accept that and not take it too seriously. You need to be able to laugh at yourself when things don’t go to plan otherwise you will be worrying about all the other possible ways it could have gone.
10. It can be hard to be confident. It is hard to be sure that whatever we do is to a high standard that is expected of us. We tend to forget to look at the positives and just focus on the negatives. Don’t judge yourself too harshly and if someone tells you that you are doing great, then you probably are!
11. You may think some people are just plain inconsiderate. Maybe they honestly don’t mean to be; they have other things going on in their lives too…
12. However, some people are just @%§£$¿€ so don’t waste time with them.
13. You may not like your boss, you may not like your job, but smile as they are paying your wages and it beats being unemployed. Plus if they don’t know you too well, it makes them begin to guess why you are grinning like the Cheshire cat!
14. Don’t hide your intelligence. Don’t hide your hobbies or interests. One day someone will need your expertise and they may repay the favor.
15. There is a high chance that if you are asked by your parents to show how to do something on a computer, they will forget so you are not suffering for deja vu. create a notebook with all the steps for what they need to do if ‘the thingy’ is not doing what it’s supposed to.
16. Always show respect to other people even if you don’t like them. That way you’ll maintain the moral high ground and you may actually find out that they’re not too bad! God forbid, you may develop a mutual respect.
17. If you are going to compliment someone, be original. Find something that other people overlook. And of course, don’t state the obvious and be sincere.
18. People will change and all of your actions can have a massive impact on someone even if you don’t think it was a big deal. Don’t say or do things without thinking.
19. Find something that you can keep on you to remain grounded. It could be a piece of jewellery or a little oddity with preferably something with contrasting textures to remind you that there will be rough and smooth patches in your life.
20. If you ever feel like you’re about to punch someone or be punched yourself, pay the other person a compliment. You’ll be amazed at the result.
21. Kids can be the biggest sources of entertainment and gossip. You have been warned.
22. Ladies, you honestly don’t have to wear so much make up as men prefer to see who you really are. If a man only likes you or compliments your appearance when you have a thick cocktail of product on your face, I would honestly be asking questions about them.
23. Gents, if you believe that the man code only revolves around bros before ‘ahem’ and that men should keep things between men; you should really grow up.
24. You never stop learning. An education is one of the most powerful assets you can ever possess.
25. Finally, always make sure the people who mean the most to you know how much you value them. It is never too late to show how much you care.